If you’re an INFJ personality type, you might have noticed that fake people tend to dislike us for no obvious reason. Well, today we’re diving into seven reasons why fake people just can’t stand us INFJs and trust me, it’s not because we’re doing anything wrong. It’s really because we’re doing things right.
Reason #1: INFJs Can See Right Through Fake People
Whether it’s to fit in, get validation, or manipulate others, fake people are often hypocrites pretending to be someone they’re not. However, as INFJs, we have an uncanny ability to sense when something’s off with someone. Our intuition is like a lie detector, and it’s almost impossible for fake people to keep up their act when we’re around.
We pick up on the subtle inconsistencies that fake people let slip out. In fact, if you’re an INFJ, you probably know that you can get a read on someone and their intentions in a matter of seconds. And while we might think that the fake person doesn’t notice, they do. That feeling of being exposed makes them very uncomfortable. Actually, scratch that it makes them downright angry.
That’s because they feel like they’ve been found out. And it’s not even that we try to call them out. It’s just that we know and they know that we know. That’s a lot of knowing. And all that knowing makes them downright hate INFJs.
Reason #2: INFJs Are Emotionally Intelligent
INFJs are deeply attuned to other people’s emotions. We can often sense how someone is truly feeling, even when they’re trying to hide it. Fake people often try to project a false image of themselves and how they feel.
For example, if someone is pretending to be happy for us, we can tell immediately. And nothing is a bigger turnoff for an INFJ than someone pretending to be happy for us. Even worse is when someone acts like they’re sad about something that went wrong in our lives, but we can tell they’re actually happy about it.
While fake people might be able to hide their true feelings from others, they can’t hide them from an INFJ. They can’t control us with their fake smiles and empty words—because we see right through that mess. And if they do it enough, we’ll call them out on it. Bye-bye, fake friend!
Reason #3: INFJs Don’t Tolerate Drama
INFJs are all about peace, harmony, and deep connections. We don’t play games or feed into petty drama especially the kind that fake people thrive on.
Fake people love creating chaos to get attention or manipulate situations. But as INFJs, we’re not down with that. We want our interactions to lift people up not tear them down or talk behind someone’s back. Fake people hate this because we won’t play into their gossip or their games.
INFJs often see both sides of a situation and find common ground. But common ground, harmony, and understanding? Those are the last things fake people want. They thrive on conflict and gossip it’s their fuel.
If these people are used to controlling the narrative or being the center of attention, the INFJ throws off their whole routine. We’re basically a metaphorical wrench thrown into their works.
Reason #4: INFJs Don’t Seek External Validation
Fake people are often driven by the need for approval, recognition, and status. They constantly chase after likes, compliments, or fitting into a specific group.
But here’s the thing: these fake people will completely abandon truth just to keep fitting in with their little herd. They’ve basically given up their thinking to someone else.
INFJs, on the other hand, don’t play that game. Our independent thinking is non-negotiable. We don’t need constant validation from others to feel good about ourselves. We’re secure in our thoughts and opinions, and that bothers fake people.
To sum it up: Fake people play games to boost their self-esteem and fit in. But when they meet an INFJ who refuses to play along, it’s like their worst nightmare.
Reason #5: INFJs Don’t Need to Be the Center of Attention
Fake people crave the spotlight. Whether through drama, exaggeration, or manipulation, they do whatever it takes to stay in it.
INFJs, however, prioritize harmony and fairness for everyone in the group. This means standing up for and including the people that the fake person is trying to leave out.
If you want to make a fake person hate you, just stand up for someone they are actively belittling. These fake people act like they have the right to decide who’s included in the “cool kids club.” And the INFJ says, Hold on just a minuteme who died and made you king?
INFJs are fine staying in the background, but we’re always watching. And when someone is being mistreated, we’ll calmly step in and stand up for them. That kind of courage really irks fake people. They can’t believe we had the guts to stand up to them and from that day forward, they’ll probably hate us. But don’t worry standing up for the underdog is always worth it.
Reason #6: Experienced INFJs Set Strong Boundaries
Personal boundaries are behavioral guidelines that help us define what is reasonable, safe, and acceptable from others.
Young INFJs often struggle with setting boundaries, which can lead to being taken advantage of. But with experience, we learn. Most older INFJs are masters of setting emotional, mental, and physical boundaries.
Fake people are often the very ones we need to set boundaries with. They push limits and try to guilt-trip people to get their way. But when they meet an experienced INFJ, they quickly learn that we won’t tolerate disrespect.
Our boundaries are non-negotiable. They’ve been forged in the school of hard knocks. And that is something fake people absolutely cannot stand. They’re like parasites if they can’t get something from you, they’ll end up hating you.
Reason #7: INFJs Are True to Themselves Above All Else
INFJs live in alignment with our values. We strive to act according to our deeply held beliefs even when doing so is difficult.
We avoid situations or people that feel inauthentic. And that’s a good thing because it means cutting toxic, fake people out of our lives. They aren’t worth the stress or drama they bring.
There’s a quote from the Stoic philosopher Epictetus that sums this up nicely:
“Avoid fraternizing with people who don’t share your values.”
This basic truth has been known for thousands of years. INFJs will walk away from environments that demand conformity to something wrong or compromise our integrity.
Honestly, if someone can’t handle your authenticity, your boundaries, or your true personality that’s their problem, not yours.
Embrace who you are. Continue being real.
As an INFJ, I’ll tell you this: It’s far better to be alone with your values intact than to be in a relationship with someone who compromises them.
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